Talking to Children about Body Safety and Boundaries

Atlanta recently hosted the Super Bowl and a number of organizations that fight hard against sex trafficking were spotlighted on the news because they know that a big event like the Super Bowl brings with it sex trafficking. What a sad commentary for our nation when children are being traded for sex.

I continue to preach that the protection of children is the responsibility of adults.  How does a young boy or girl find themselves in a position where they are being traded for sex?

As a parent, guardian, caregiver or community member, we must talk openly with children about their bodies and healthy boundaries. Be the “go to person” when they have questions or if a situation arises. Let your child know that no matter what happens, they can share with you without fear of being blamed and that you will protect them.  If they feel that they cannot talk to you, they should find another trusted adult to talk to.

Here are a few strategies to get the conversation started about body safety and boundaries:

·         Teach your child that no one should ask them to touch their private parts with any part of their body, including their mouth

·         Teach your child that no one should touch them in the bathing suit area. This is a good visual, especially for young children

·         Don’t force your child to hug or kiss adults against their wishes

·         Talk to your child about the value and privacy of his/her body

·         Practice “what-if” games with your child (problem solving)

·         Teach your child the proper names for private body parts

·         Teach your child that their no means no and not to be pressured into doing something that they do not want to do

Source:  Darkness to Light

Call to Action:

Here are a few suggestions from Prevent Child Abuse Georgia to help support parents, guardians and other caregivers and create great childhoods for children in your community while doing what you love include:

·         Volunteer for an after-school mentoring program

·         Host a parent education workshop for parents at a local shelter

·         Give a new mom a break by taking over dinner or offering to babysit

·         Share resources with parents, i.e. free places to children to eat, free events for children

·         Coach a youth sports team to teach children about the value of teamwork. They will learn how to trust teammates and themselves.

Community Resources:

·         1-800-CHILDREN (1-800-244-5373) Helpline to talk to trained professionals who will connect you with supportive programs in your area.

·         www.sexwiseparent.com (this book is a parent’s guide to protecting their child, strengthening their family, and talking to their child about sex, abuse and bullying)

In his service,

Virginia

Please feel free to contact Virginia for further information at vbconsulting@bellsouth.net

MARCH 5, 2019